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July 04, 2003
"why are you so quiet?"
a couple of interestin articles on introverts..
- born that way..
in the first, i find it extremely curious that michael jordan is identified as an introvert (uncorroborated, of course). who would think that someone w/ that much charisma and such a dominatin personality would be introverted? i guess my problem is i tend to classify introverts w/ the same reclusive attributes i see in myself. great, anti-social AND narrow-minded..
the second article highlights a fantastic point ("are introverts oppressed?") for me cuz i am hardly an assertive person. put me in a conference rm of 20 people whom ive just met and you wouldnt hear a peep from me even if i was given $20. i cant pinpoint why i feel so inhibited in those large group situations, although i think it must arise from bein over-self-conscious..
in those times when i do refrain from speakin/contributin/makin-my-presence-known, i tend to withdraw more and more until my deliberate silence has turned into a disgruntled solitude. and i begin to resent those overbearin, extroverted personalities whose voice just has to dominate the conversation. as i am pushed away, i am also pissed off..
of course, i have no justification for how i feel--i guess as much as they may not understand my aloofness, i dont understand their need to stand front and center..
when we first started goin out, esther and i noticed that whenever we would be hangin out w/ a bunch of people she would often be right in the mix of things where everyones attention was fixed while i would tend to drift to the fringe, away from the calamity and excitement..
i guess shes an extrovert--how do we ever get along?
Posted by chars at July 4, 2003 01:48 AM